What a great first day together!! Our friend Beth took us on a walking tour of Donetsk and it was wonderful. The weather was great and we had the best time. Donetsk has the most beautiful parks!!
As we transition from a very superficial existance the past 10 weeks as all fun and play visitors in their world 3 hours each day into becoming a true family I want to be honest to help others who walk this path a few steps behind us while being respectful of our kids. Life is not all rosy and perfect with any family and ours will be no exception.
Yesterday we got our first taste of a bad attitude in our little guy. We were so shocked to see him be totally defiant, we had never seen this side of him before. This little guy has been the one who always greets and sends us off at each goodbye with big hugs and a joyful spirit. This is the one of the four who is concerned about the cost of us being here so long, who shows the most concern when I’ve been sick. Who was this kid who refused to stop playing with a lighter and ran from his Dad when he was discovered the second time? Where did our sweet boy go? It was not a good day and he made it a rough one for us all.
After the initial confrontation and his defiance, he retreated to himself. It was the day we were checking them out of the orphanage for good and they were all to come home with us and we had one sitting 12′ away with his back to us avoiding us all day. The first big test. A big prayer for wisdom. When it was packing time and he had to face us we let him know that with our translator at DCU we would be talking about his attitude later that evening. He refused to eat dinner and was still defiant when talking with the translator about the day and what he was feeling. He was open to a hug from me at bedtime but was obviously alienated from the relationship. They all slept 10 hours last night and he slept 11.
When he awoke he welcomed my hug and ate breakfast well. Soon he had Alex translate to his dad that he was sorry for what he had done. He owned it and apologized to his Dad and got a big hug and the assurance that his apology was accepted and he was forgiven. Repentance. Grace. It was freeing for him, he behaved beyond wonderfully today and we all had a great day. We pray that established the authority and communicated clearly attitudes that will not be tolerated. Our sweet boy who thanks us for everything so genuinely was back, we were elated and the day could not have been better. We’ll let the photos tell the rest of the story of our first day together as a family.